Have you ever shaken someone’s hand and thought about what it means?
A hand shake is a light into ones personality or intension.
Are you confident, dominant, submissive, lack credibility?
What message are you portraying?
When you are working with people in Business it is important to understand this and model your own hand shake to speak your personality in a non verbal way.
As a leader or someone who is being coached to step up into a role of leadership it is important you learn this early.
Now it is time to perfect your hand shake.
What are you going to change or implement?
|signal||part of body||possible
|handshake – palm down||handshake||dominance||Usually a firm handshake, the ‘upper hand’ tends to impose and/or create a dominant impression.|
|handshake – palm up||handshake||submission, accommodating||Usually not a strong handshake, the lower hand has submitted to the upper hand dominance. How all this ultimately translates into the subsequent relationship and outcomes can depend on more significant factors than the handshake.|
|handshake – both hands||handshake||seeking to convey trustworthiness and honesty, seeking to control||Whether genuine or not, this handshake is unduly physical and (often) uncomfortably domineering.|
|handshake – equal and vertical||handshake||non-threatening, relaxed||Most handshakes are like this, when neither person seeks to control or to yield.|
|pumping handshake||handshake||enthusiasm||A vigorous pumping handshake tends to indicate energy and enthusiasm of the shaker towards the other person, the meeting, situation or project, etc). There is a sense of attempting to transfer energy and enthusiasm, literally, from the vigorous handshaker to the shaken person, hence the behaviour is popular in motivational folk and evangelists, etc.|
|weak handshake||handshake||various||Avoid the common view that a weak handshake is the sign of a weak or submissive person. It is not. Weak handshakes can be due to various aspects of personality, mood, etc. People who use their hands in their profession, for example, musicians, artists, surgeons, etc., can have quite gentle sensitive handshakes. Strong but passive people can have gentle handshakes. Old people can have weak handshakes. A weak handshake might be due to arthritis. Young people unaccustomed to handshaking can have weak handshakes. It’s potentially a very misleading signal.|
|firm handshake||handshake||outward confidence||Avoid the common view that a firm handshake is the sign of a strong solid person. It is not. Firm handshakes are a sign of outward confidence, which could mask deceit or a weak bullying nature, or indicate a strong solid person. Strength of a handshake is not by itself an indicator of positive ‘good’ mood or personality, and caution is required in reading this signal. It is widely misinterpreted.|
|handshake with arm clasp||handshake||seeking control, paternalism||When a handshake is accompanied by the left hand clasping the other person’s right arm this indicates a wish to control or a feeling of care, which can be due to arrogance. To many this represents an unwanted invasion of personal space, since touching ‘permission’ is for the handshake only.|